Introduction

This is my personal story of increasing abundance and empowerment using an energy technique called EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) which involves gently tapping on various meridian points around the head and body whilst focusing on thoughts and feelings. If you haven’t come across this before, you can download a Getting Started Package which includes a free manual.

Gary Craig, the inventor of EFT, has provided the transcript of a workshop he did called The Palace of Possibilities. In a nutshell, this metaphor says that we all live in a Palace with many hundreds or thousands of rooms containing untold riches (money, love, joy etc). However, we tend to camp out in one poor little room and never get to explore the rest of the palace because we have the rules of our life written on the walls. We interpret life according to what is written on our walls – because it is what we see every day and it becomes ingrained in us. These rules or beliefs are what limit us. They say things like "money doesn't grow on trees" or "you have to be careful with your resources or you'll run out of time or money" or "when you become spiritual you have to give up money because you can't be spiritually enlightened and have money". However, these beliefs can be challenged and changed, enabling us to move out of our ‘comfort zone’ of one room, to explore the palace and achieve empowerment, for ourselves and others.

Those beliefs that hold us back are also referred to as ‘tail enders’ In other words, the little voices that object when we try to affirm something for ourselves. When we make an affirmation with the intent of changing something in our life, these tail enders produce a negative vibration that attracts the very things we don't want and undermines the effectiveness of the affirmation. Gary’s poweful idea here is that by using EFT to clear away the tail enders, our affirmations can then more easily and quickly bring forth the fruit we so desire. Together, EFT and the Law of Attraction is a very powerful combination that allows us to manifest our dreams in weeks rather than years.

An Adventure within the Palace

by Marian Mills EFT-Adv

I have a story that I hope will inspire others to look into the wonderful Palace of Possibilities, or maybe re-visit it. I had watched the DVDs so I knew all about affirmations and tail-enders. I was even booked to give a talk at a local therapy centre about it a year ago, but I cancelled at the last minute! Because although I knew it, I didn’t really get it.

Just before Christmas there was an EFT forum post where a woman was suddenly seeing colours in auras after doing a lot of clearing with EFT. ScientistGeorge wrote a post to the effect that it was just the tip of the tip of the iceberg of our human potential and asked anyone interested in going further in using EFT to develop our potential to contact him. I did contact him. We got to talk via the internet in mid January and both of us concluded that releasing me from financial worries was the first step. George said that he’d used Gary’s affirmation / tail ender process several times with great success and would coach me if I wanted.

Working with an EFT coach helped me enormously when I really started to focus on abundance issues. My husband & I had always had a variable income with him working short-term contracts and my EFT practice in a fairly remote rural location. As you might imagine, there often wasn’t enough coming in to meet all the necessary outgoings and Christmas had stretched us to the limit. So the most important thing to me was to get a steady income that provided for all the outgoings, just to stabilise things.

Gary’s affirmation on the DVD’s was “I easily, consistently earn $40,000 a year.” George helped me to eliminate some of the limitations in that affirmation and mine became like one that George had used successfully:
“ I easily, consistently and joyfully bring in £x,000 per month” (there was a specific amount in place of the ‘x’)

Just saying it felt so uncomfortable, so I tinkered with it a bit. What made the biggest difference was changing the last part to “receive £x,000 per month”.

This really helped me to get out of the worries of how it was going to happen.

I crashed through a whole pile of tail enders in a few half hour tapping sessions over the next days.

You know the kind, I’m sure

o I’d have to work so hard I’d never have time off for fun or family
o I’d feel tired and drained all the time
o I’d have to do something really boring and not in line with my aspirations at all
o The maths doesn’t add up for a therapy income
o Therapists just don’t earn good money – they get their rewards from seeing they’ve helped someone else.
o Even if my husband gets a job, it won’t last for long anyway.
o I’m playing a fool’s game here – taking silly risks to avoid doing what I know that I should do (that one was definitely my father’s voice!)

At this point, saying the affirmation gave me a nice warm glow feeling and a few ideas about how it would feel safer and more secure with a regular income, but I couldn’t hold onto that feeling for more than a few seconds before the tail enders came crashing back in and it faded away.

By this time I really needed my coach as I would say I was into the more tricky blocks. I started to blank out at just thinking about the affirmation. I couldn’t think what to tap on – it felt like a complete shut down inside. It even turned into a head cold which gave me the idea that I was over-using my head at the time, so I sort of sat back from the problems and asked George for some help.

Tapping on
“ Even though I don’t have a clue what this blankness is about, I choose to send myself some nice insights”

helped me to realise that the ‘blank’ was a fear of doing something on my own.

So after some tapping around this I came up with an idea. Here’s what I wrote at the time.

Just like we are completely provided for when babies in our mother's womb by the placenta, so too, once we have cut that cord, we still have a spiritual 'placenta'. I envisage it like a vast storehouse of wonderful things/feelings/thoughts that are all mine. All I need to do is to open the door between myself and that room by achieving a higher vibrational level) for it to flow to me. Also, I saw a crowd of 'people' in that room all encouraging me, desperately wanting to be able to give me all the good things in that room. It is there for each one of us, and we need to bring as much of our own store rooms onto the planet as we can for the benefit of all.
It has helped me to get around the idea that there is only a limited amount of anything. When I open the door to my store room and start allowing more to come through, I am enriching the sum total of what is available on the planet for all to share. Yet again I realise that there really are no limits.

Then came a tail ender I didn’t spot for myself. What if saying “receive” rather than “bring in” meant that I wasn’t actually using my own efforts to attract the money? It felt somehow important to do it on my own, to prove something to myself, so how could I do that if he earned the money?

So I tapped on all my beliefs about my self worth, that I am not defined by money, my bank balance doesn’t reflect my value as a person, that I put my effort in to being who I am and that that is just as deserving of reward as slogging away in an office all day long. I made a few side affirmations which I pasted to my wall

I can have fun and money flows easily to me
I am worth £100,000 p.a. just for being me
Just for today I focus on being myself
Just for today I choose to relax, have fun and enjoy life.

The next tail ender to come up was what I called a ‘biggie’ and I think many of us have this to some degree.

If this works for me, or rather, if I make this work for me, then it means I have such huge power ..... and I no longer have any excuses not to do things ..... and then I feel so overwhelmed by it all, along with a fear that I won't be able to share my 'truth' with others because I'll have moved even further away from their reality.

Again, a helpful suggestion from George moved things on. He suggested I make a list of all the things I ‘should do’ if I really was truly all-powerful! Well, that one blew me away for a while, so I continued tapping with all of those wonderful tail enders.

If I am truly ALL-POWERFUL I should:

o use all my power and energy to do things for the benefit of everyone
o work hard at it
o not take time off for fun and relaxation
o feel overwhelmed and guilty about not doing enough
o make difficult decisions about where to direct my power
o take responsibility for all that is ’wrong’ in the world, whatever that may be
o take uncomfortable risks
o risk others’ disapproval/anger
o be visible in the world – feel drained by what people ‘want’ or ‘need’ from me
o change – me and my life
o risk failure

Here’s an image that helped me – I like metaphors. (I hope those outside the UK will understand it too!)

I think I've made a breakthrough today in realising that I already have all my power, just a lot of tail enders in the way about how, why, where and when it operates. I’ve been acting like a transformer, taking 240v of electricity power from the socket but only outputting 9v because of the reduction effect of all those tail enders.

This was getting to be fun by this stage because I was getting to some real core issues – and moving through them at such a rate. I’ve never known anything like EFT for doing this so fast. Having a coach meant that I wasn’t spending so much time wandering around in my head feeling confused, or ‘zoned out’ because I didn’t want to face it. I was also laughing a lot – at myself and my ‘ridiculous’ beliefs. Note my affirmation included easily and joyfully!

The one that made me almost fall over with laughter, was when I wrote

“It’s going to take me a long time to get to all of my tail enders – after all there must be loads of them and they must be really deep and inaccessible” Must they indeed?

Oh I had fun tapping on:

“Just for today, I say pooh to life being difficult and to me being difficult”

For a long time I've held the belief that life is like pushing huge rocks up steep hills. When you get one up to the top, there's always another one to go.
Now, I've realised that it isn't like that at all. What's needed is to allow the rock to roll down the hill, having first cleared away any debris or obstructions, by giving it a gentle push and watching it roll with more and more power right down the hill. And, of course, we have EFT to clear away the debris! For a longer version of this metaphor click here

I got the sense after that that there was one more quite deep-seated issue to deal with. I didn’t know what it was, so I tapped on keeping an open mind to the answer coming to me anytime anyplace. I could just feel it vaguely inside, like a lump in my chest.

It was later the same day that someone mentioned a word that just echoed so loudly in my mind: “Inadequacy”. I don’t remember hearing what else she said for about 5 minutes, just the loud resounding plop of a penny dropping. So, I had my answer.

I haven’t completely resolved inadequacy, but I have definitely been able to accept it better after some tapping and that seemed to clear the last block.

Two days later, my husband accepted a full-time job, and asked for more money than was originally offered, which, when annualised and tax has been deducted comes to – you guessed it, the exact amount I’d been tapping for per month! I had no input into the amount that he got – even he didn’t know what I was really tapping for. AND it’s a job that he really loves. EFT had a part to play in that too, as he had used it to finally overcome his redundancy of 10 years ago.

By the way, the really interesting thing is that he got his job at the end of January – only TWO WEEKS after I’d started this process!! I don’t want you to think that I was abandoning my husband and children, staying up all night just to tap, or anything weird like that – I just tapped a few times a day and was persistent in tracking down the tail enders. Having someone to help me see the ones I couldn’t see was so beneficial, and I’d recommend this to anyone struggling with abundance issues right now. Go get a coach! Preferably someone who’s actually done it for themselves rather than someone who just ‘knows’ it.

Now I’m tapping for his bonuses! And I’ll tap for a little boost to my EFT practice. But not too much – remember, I don’t want to work too hard!

I would like to mention that I seemed to go through a period of grieving after this success; possibly grieving for the person I was, all my old beliefs that I had shaken off, all my old fears. It was good to let go of all this emotional baggage though and I felt so much lighter.

I’m now off to explore some of the other rooms in my palace now and I don’t intend to ever stop. I hope this palace is limitless.

Thank you Gary Craigfor a wonderful way to make life happen in the way you want it to be. Now I think I know it and I’ve got it – I’m living it every day, which is the really big difference.

Yes, I have the money I wanted, but I also have so much more happiness, joy, understanding and, most of all, love and acceptance of myself. I now feel I can manifest whatever I want!

PS It wasn’t until reviewing this for write up that George revealed that I had unconsciously limited myself quite early on by changing his original affirmation. Two very important words that might make a huge difference
“ I easily, consistently and joyfully receive AT LEAST £x,000 a month”

If you’re interested in coaching for abundance, please contact me either by email at marian@thestillpoint.co.uk or via the EFT forum at http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/ where I am known as bodhileaf.